CONverse

I notice more and more that the emphasis is for people not to show ANY hesitation, any whim change … certainty self-assurance at all times ..

but what’s at the root of all this apparent certainty? I muse …
–genuine self assurance?
Is it perhaps a wall to stop anyone shining the slightest criticism at them; the search lights from the nazi fortress shine brightly OUTWARDS, never in on themselves…

The word "con" comes from confidence - i.e a con man uses the natural human assuption that if something looks like a rabbit, sounds like a rabbit etc...in all probability, it is in fact a rabbit and likewise someone whom appears confidently to be what they profess to be...

you look act eat, make love like a woman but you break like a little girl..To paraphrase Bob Dylan. and I’m talking about builders!!

There seems to be a climate of intolerance - I think they blame on Thatcher..

People almost accept that is ok to take pleasure from criticising or ticking someone off.
If you break the assumptions i.e. actually talk to people in check-out queues.. you are not lynched many people will be suprised to hear.

My favourite assuption breaker is "I am sorry, am I inconveniencing you?" Say it how it is. Cos that sure as hell is the impression that they are giving. But will they back it up.?..

"no no I was just wondering how long you were going to be"
"I see, so apart from your musings, did you have anything constuctive you wanted to say? We are trying to have a conversation here"

It is interesting how in the absence of dialogue the negative mindset rises... just speak !! You'll be amased ..

I was known as "Bill" for years as I muttered "Phil" when asked my name in the pub by my employer.. So you see I am the shyest .mo' fu' ever, but I do it.

I'm talking especially to you Londoners. Assert your rites .. Converse!!